Vice Contributor, Sam Kriss, Apologises To Sexual Assault Victim
In a Facebook post today, Sam Kriss was accused of sexually assaulting a girl he briefly dated. The girl, who posted the statement anonymously, claimed the Vice writer ignored all her attempts at stopping him.
I had hoped I would never have to write this account. But watching a man who repeatedly groped me, twisted my neck to forcibly kiss me, ignored any attempt I made to stop him, and refused to ‘let me’ drink non-alcohol, unashamedly attack feminists online, use misogynist language, singling out women for ridicule time and time again, means I’ve not really been able to forget.
Kriss, who has previously called all gamers ‘misogynist’, seemed to not get the message several times during their date.
Turns out he wasn’t putting his arm round me, but behind me, to place his hand on the back of my neck, so as to twist my head to face his, wherein, he again forcibly kissed me. This physically hurt. “Honestly, I don’t like PDAs. People can see”. Sam, considerately, then ceased until the next few moments when the lights went dark – ensuring no one could see – where he again somehow found my mouth with his during those few seconds of darkness before the play began.
It turns out Kriss was pretty pushy with this chick. He repeatedly groped her in public, and didn’t seem to get the hint when she pushed his hands away every time. He also insisted she drink alcohol even though she had declined several times.
Back in our seats I didn’t touch the wine. Sam began flicking his finger against the glass, commanding, “drink” (flick), “drink (flick), “I bought you this drink. Drink it” (flick).
Usually, when an accusation of this magnitude is made, I like to use words such as ‘allegedly’ and ‘reportedly.’ However, Sam Kriss released a statement on Medium confirming her story. Kriss claimed he has apologised to the victim and wanted to add some perspective.
By the time of the night described in the accusation, she and I had, as she mentions, previously met twice and we had an existing sexual relationship. The behaviour she describes was informed by that fact. I wasn’t fully aware of how unwelcome my advances were at that point: we had been messaging intimately and frequently up until then, and I went into the evening thinking it would be a continuation of the relationship we had already established. Had I known the extent to which I was making her uncomfortable at this point I would not have pursued it further. Again, this is entirely my fault, for not being properly attentive and not picking up on her signals. I crossed a line from persistence to aggression; I’m fully responsible, and I’m sorry.
Now there is something suspicious about what he says next. In the Facebook post, she claimed she stayed friends with Kriss on social media so she could know his whereabouts in order to avoid him. However, it seems Kriss has a different story to tell.
After the incident, she continued to message me amicably for months, including suggesting that we might meet again, until other divisions became apparent. Because of this I had no idea that I might have hurt or upset her.
Sam has been catching a lot of flack on Twitter.
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— Mohenjo Mario 🗺 (@1Ashurbanipal) October 17, 2017
I am convinced at this point that male feminists are low key sexual predators trying to earn the trust in women who lost their trust in men.
— SA-X (@TheBrutalSax) October 17, 2017
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— Hannoween Al-🎃thman (@HannahAlOthman) October 17, 2017